XIII. FROM LADY CLITHEROE TO MARY CHURCHILL
I’ve dreadful news, my Sister dear!
Frederick has married, as we hear,
Oh, such a girl! This fact we get
From Mr. Barton, whom we met
At Abury once. He used to know,
At Race and Hunt, Lord Clitheroe,
And writes that he ‘has seen Fred Graham,
Commander of the Wolf,—the same
The Mess call’d Joseph,—with his Wife
Under his arm.’ He ‘lays his life,
The fellow married her for love,
For there was nothing else to move.
H is her Shibboleth. ’Tis said
Her Mother was a Kitchen-Maid.’
Poor Fred! What will Honoria say?
She thought so highly of him. Pray
Tell it her gently. I’ve no right,
I know you hold, to trust my sight;
But Frederick’s state could not be hid!
Awl Felix, coming when he did,
Was lucky; for Honoria, too,
Was half in love. How warm she grew
On ‘worldliness,’ when once I said
I fancied that, in ladies, Fred
Had tastes much better than his means!
His hand was worthy of a Queen’s,
Said she, and actually shed tears
The night he left us for two years,
And sobb’d, when ask’d the cause to tell,
That ‘Frederick look’d so miserable.’
He did look very dull, no doubt,
But such things girls don’t cry about.
What weathercocks men always prove!
You’re quite right not to fall in love.
I never did, and, truth to tell,
I don’t think it respectable.
The man can’t understand it, too.
He likes to be in love with you,
But scarce knows how, if you love him,
Poor fellow. When ’tis woman’s whim
To serve her husband night and day,
The kind soul lets her have her way!
So, if you wed, as soon you should,
Be selfish for your husband’s good.
Happy the men who relegate
Their pleasures, vanities, and state
To us. Their nature seems to be
To enjoy themselves by deputy,
For, seeking their own benefit,
Dear, what a mess they make of it!
A man will work his bones away,
If but his wife will only play;
He does not mind how much he’s teased,
So that his plague looks always pleased;
And never thanks her, while he lives,
For anything, but what he gives!
’Tis hard to manage men, we hear!
Believe me, nothing’s easier, Dear.
The most important step by far
Is finding what their colours are.
The next is, not to let them know
The reason why they love us so.
The indolent droop of a blue shawl,
Or gray silk’s fluctuating fall,
Covers the multitude of sins
In me. Your husband, Love, might wince
At azure, and be wild at slate,
And yet do well with chocolate.
Of course you’d let him fancy he
Adored you for your piety.
XIV. FROM JANE TO HER MOTHER
Dear Mother, as you write, I see
How glad and thankful I should be
For such a husband. Yet to tell
The truth, I am so miserable!
How could he—I remember, though,
He never said me loved me! No,
He is so right that all seems wrong
I’ve done and thought my whole life long!
I’m grown so dull and dead with fear
That Yes and No, when he is near,
Is all I have to say. He’s quite
Unlike what most would call polite,
And yet, when first I saw him come
To tea in Aunt’s fine drawing-room,
He made me feel so common! Oh,
How dreadful if he thinks me so!
It’s no use trying to behave
To him. His eye, so kind and grave,
Sees through and through me! Could not you,
Without his knowing that I knew,
Ask him to scold me now and then?
Mother, it’s such a weary strain
The way he has of treating me
As if ’twas something fine to be
A woman; and appearing not
To notice any faults I’ve got!
I know he knows I’m plain, and small,
Stupid and ignorant, and all
Awkward and mean; and, by degrees,
I see a beauty which he sees,
When often he looks strange awhile,
Then recollects me with a smile.
I wish he had that fancied Wife,
With me for Maid, now! all my life
To dress her out for him, and make
Her looks the lovelier for his sake;
To have her rate me till I cried;
Then see her seated by his side,
And driven off proudly to the Ball;
Then to stay up for her, whilst all
The servants were asleep; and hear
At dawn the carriage rolling near,
And let them in; and hear her laugh,
And boast, he said that none was half
So beautiful, and that the Queen,
Who danced with him the first, had seen
And noticed her, and ask’d who was
That lady in the golden gauze?
And then to go to bed, and lie
In a sort of heavenly jealousy,
Until ’twas broad day, and I guess’d
She slept, nor knew how she was bless’d.
Pray burn this letter. I would not
Complain, but for the fear I’ve got
Of going wild, as we hear tell
Of people shut up in a cell,
With no one there to talk to. He
Must never know he is loved by me
The most; he’d think himself to blame;
And I should almost die for shame.
If being good would serve instead
Of being graceful, ah, then, Fred—
But I, myself, I never could
See what’s in women’s being good;
For all their goodness is to do
Just what their nature tells them to.
Now, when a man would do what’s right,
He has to try with all his might.
Though true and kind in deed and word,
Fred’s not a vessel of the Lord.
But I have hopes of him; for, oh,
How can we ever surely know
But that the very darkest place
May be the scene of saving grace!
XV. FROM FREDERICK
‘How did I feel?’ The little wight
Fill’d me, unfatherly, with fright!
So grim it gazed, and, out of the sky,
There came, minute, remote, the cry,
Piercing, of original pain.
I put the wonder back to Jane,
And her delight seem’d dash’d, that I,
Of strangers still by nature shy,
Was not familiar quite so soon
With her small friend of many a moon.
But, when the new-made Mother smiled,
She seem’d herself a little child,
Dwelling at large beyond the law
By which, till then, I judged and saw;
And that fond glow which she felt stir
For it, suffused my heart for her;
To whom, from the weak babe, and thence
To me, an influent innocence,
Happy, reparative of life,
Came, and she was indeed my wife,
As there, lovely with love she lay,
Brightly contented all the day
To hug her sleepy little boy,
In the reciprocated joy
Of touch, the childish sense of love,
Ever inquisitive to prove
Its strange possession, and to know
If the eye’s report be really so.
XVI. FROM JANE TO MRS. GRAHAM
Dear Mother,—such if you’ll allow,
In love, not law, I’ll call you now,—
I hope you’re well. I write to say
Frederick has got, besides his pay,
A good appointment in the Docks;
Also to thank you for the frocks
And shoes for Baby. I, (D.V.,)
Shall soon be strong. Fred goes to sea
No more. I am so glad; because,
Though kinder husband never was,
He seems still kinder to become
The more he stays with me at home.
When we are parted, I see plain
He’s dull till he gets used again
To marriage. Do not tell him, though;
I would not have him know I know,
For all the world.
I try to mind
All your advice; but sometimes find
I do not well see how. I thought
To take it about dress; so bought
A gay new bonnet, gown, and shawl;
But Frederick was not pleased at all;
For, though he smiled, and said, ‘How smart!’
I feel, you know, what’s in his heart.
But I shall learn! I fancied long
That care in dress was very wrong,
Till Frederick, in his startling way,
When I began to blame, one day,
The Admiral’s Wife, because we hear
She spends two hours, or something near,
In dressing, took her part, and said
How all things deck themselves that wed;
How birds and plants grow fine to please
Each other in their marriages;
And how (which certainly is true—
It never struck me—did it you?)
Dress was, at first, Heaven’s ordinance,
And has much Scripture countenance.
For Eliezer, we are told,
Adorn’d with jewels and with gold
Rebecca. In the Psalms, again,
How the King’s Daughter dress’d! And, then,
The Good Wife in the Proverbs, she
Made herself clothes of tapestry,
Purple and silk: and there’s much more
I had not thought about before!
But Fred’s so clever! Do you know,
Since Baby came, he loves me so!
I’m really useful, now, to Fred;
And none could do so well instead.
It’s nice to fancy, if I died,
He’d miss me from the Darling’s side!
Also, there’s something now, you see,
On which we talk, and quite agree;
On which, without pride too, I can
Hope I’m as wise as any man.
I should be happy now, if quite
Sure that in one thing Fred was right.
But, though I trust his prayers are said,
Because he goes so late to bed,
I doubt his Calling. Glad to find
A text adapted to his mind,—
That where St. Paul, in Man and Wife,
Allows a little worldly life,—
He smiled, and said that he knew all
Such things as that without St. Paul!
And once he said, when I with pain
Had got him just to read Romaine,
‘Men’s creeds should not their hopes condemn.
Who wait for heaven to come to them
Are little like to go to heaven,
If logic’s not the devil’s leaven!’
I cried at such a wicked joke,
And he, surprised, went out to smoke.
But to judge him is not for me,
Who myself sin so dreadfully
As half to doubt if I should care
To go to heaven, and he not there.
He must be right; and I dare say
I shall soon understand his way.
To other things, once strange, I’ve grown
Accustom’d, nay, to like. I own
’Twas long before I got well used
To sit, while Frederick read or mused
For hours, and scarcely spoke. When he,
For all that, held the door to me,
Pick’d up my handkerchief, and rose
To set my chair, with other shows
Of honour, such as men, ’tis true,
To sweethearts and fine ladies do,
It almost seem’d an unkind jest;
But now I like these ways the best.
They somehow make me gentle and good;
And I don’t mind his quiet mood.
If Frederick does seem dull awhile,
There’s Baby. You should see him smile!
I’m pretty and nice to him, sweet Pet,
And he will learn no better yet:
Indeed, now little Johnny makes
A busier time of it, and takes
Our thoughts off one another more,
In happy as need be, I’m sure!
XVII. FROM FELIX TO HONORIA
Let me, Beloved, while gratitude
Is garrulous with coming good,
Or ere the tongue of happiness
Be silenced by your soft caress,
Relate how, musing here of you,
The clouds, the intermediate blue,
The air that rings with larks, the grave
And distant rumour of the wave,
The solitary sailing skiff,
The gusty corn-field on the cliff,
The corn-flower by the crumbling ledge,
Or, far-down at the shingle’s edge,
The sighing sea’s recurrent crest
Breaking, resign’d to its unrest,
All whisper, to my home-sick thought,
Of charms in you till now uncaught,
Or only caught as dreams, to die
Ere they were own’d by memory.
High and ingenious Decree
Of joy-devising Deity!
You whose ambition only is
The assurance that you make my bliss,
(Hence my first debt of love to show,
That you, past showing indeed do so!)
Trust me the world, the firmament,
With diverse-natured worlds besprent,
Were rear’d in no mere undivine
Boast of omnipotent design,
The lion differing from the snake
But for the trick of difference sake,
And comets darting to and fro
Because in circles planets go;
But rather that sole love might be
Refresh’d throughout eternity
In one sweet faith, for ever strange,
Mirror’d by circumstantial change.
For, more and more, do I perceive
That everything is relative
To you, and that there’s not a star,
Nor nothing in’t, so strange or far,
But, if ’twere scanned, ’twould chiefly mean
Somewhat, till then, in you unseen,
Something to make the bondage strait
Of you and me more intimate,
Some unguess’d opportunity
Of nuptials in a new degree.
But, oh, with what a novel force
Your best-conn’d beauties, by remorse
Of absence, touch; and, in my heart,
How bleeds afresh the youthful smart
Of passion fond, despairing still
To utter infinite goodwill
By worthy service! Yet I know
That love is all that love can owe,
And this to offer is no less
Of worth, in kind speech or caress,
Than if my life-blood I should give.
For good is God’s prerogative,
And Love’s deed is but to prepare
The flatter’d, dear Belov’d to dare
Acceptance of His gifts. When first
On me your happy beauty burst,
Honoria, verily it seem’d
That naught beyond you could be dream’d
Of beauty and of heaven’s delight.
Zeal of an unknown infinite
Yet bade me ever wish you more
Beatified than e’er before.
Angelical, were your replies
To my prophetic flatteries;
And sweet was the compulsion strong
That drew me in the course along
Of heaven’s increasing bright allure,
With provocations fresh of your
Victorious capacity.
Whither may love, so fledged, not fly?
Did not mere Earth hold fast the string
Of this celestial soaring thing,
So measure and make sensitive,
And still, to the nerves, nice notice give
Of each minutest increment
Of such interminable ascent,
The heart would lose all count, and beat
Unconscious of a height so sweet,
And the spirit-pursuing senses strain
Their steps on the starry track in vain!
But, reading now the note just come,
With news of you, the babes, and home,
I think, and say, ‘To-morrow eve
With kisses me will she receive;’
And, thinking, for extreme delight
Of love’s extremes, I laugh outright.
XVIII. FROM FREDERICK
Eight wedding-days gone by, and none
Yet kept, to keep them all in one,
Jane and myself, with John and Grace
On donkeys, visited the place
I first drew breath in, Knatchley Wood.
Bearing the basket, stuff’d with food.
Milk, loaves, hard eggs, and marmalade,
I halted where the wandering glade
Divides the thicket. There I knew,
It seem’d, the very drops of dew
Below the unalter’d eglantine.
Nothing had changed since I was nine!
In the green desert, down to eat
We sat, our rustic grace at meat
Good appetite, through that long climb
Hungry two hours before the time.
And there Jane took her stitching out,
And John for birds’-nests pry’d about,
And Grace and Baby, in between
The warm blades of the breathing green,
Dodged grasshoppers; and I no less,
In conscientious idleness,
Enjoy’d myself, under the noon
Stretch’d, and the sounds and sights of June
Receiving, with a drowsy charm,
Through muffled ear and folded arm.
And then, as if I sweetly dream’d,
I half-remember’d how it seem’d
When I, too, was a little child
About the wild wood roving wild.
Pure breezes from the far-off height
Melted the blindness from my sight,
Until, with rapture, grief, and awe,
I saw again as then I saw.
As then I saw, I saw again
The harvest-waggon in the lane,
With high-hung tokens of its pride
Left in the elms on either side;
The daisies coming out at dawn
In constellations on the lawn;
The glory of the daffodil;
The three black windmills on the hill,
Whose magic arms, flung wildly by,
Sent magic shadows o’er the rye.
Within the leafy coppice, lo,
More wealth than miser’s dreams could show,
The blackbird’s warm and woolly brood,
Five golden beaks agape for food;
The Gipsies, all the summer seen
Native as poppies to the Green;
The winter, with its frosts and thaws
And opulence of hips and haws:
The lovely marvel of the snow;
The Tamar, with its altering show
Of gay ships sailing up and down,
Among the fields and by the Town;
And, dearer far than anything,
Came back the songs you used to sing.
(Ah, might you sing such songs again,
And I, your child, but hear as then,
With conscious profit of the gulf
Flown over from my present self!)
And, as to men’s retreating eyes,
Beyond high mountains higher rise,
Still farther back there shone to me
The dazzling dusk of infancy.
Thither I look’d, as, sick of night,
The Alpine shepherd looks to the height,
And does not see the day, ’tis true,
But sees the rosy tops that do.
Meantime Jane stitch’d, and fann’d the flies
From my repose, with hush’d replies
To Grace, and smiles when Baby fell.
Her countenance love visible
Appear’d, love audible her voice.
Why in the past alone rejoice,
Whilst here was wealth before me cast
Which, I could feel, if ’twere but past
Were then most precious? Question vain,
When ask’d again and yet again,
Year after year; yet now, for no
Cause, but that heaven’s bright winds will blow
Not at our pray’r but as they list,
It brought that distant, golden mist
To grace the hour, firing the deep
Of spirit and the drowsy keep
Of joy, till, spreading uncontain’d,
The holy power of seeing gained
The outward eye, this owning even
That where there’s love and truth there’s heaven.
Debtor to few, forgotten hours
Am I, that truths for me are powers.
Ah, happy hours, ’tis something yet
Not to forget that I forget!
And now a cloud, bright, huge and calm,
Rose, doubtful if for bale or balm;
O’ertoppling towers and bulwarks bright
Appear’d, at beck of viewless might.
Along a rifted mountain range.
Untraceable and swift in change,
Those glittering peaks, disrupted, spread
To solemn bulks, seen overhead;
The sunshine quench’d, from one dark form
Fumed the appalling light of storm.
Straight to the zenith, black with bale,
The Gipsies’ smoke rose deadly pale;
And one wide night of hopeless hue
Hid from the heart the recent blue.
And soon, with thunder crackling loud,
A flash reveal’d the formless cloud:
Lone sailing rack, far wavering rim,
And billowy tracts of stormland dim.
We stood, safe group’d beneath a shed.
Grace hid behind Jane’s gown for dread,
Who told her, fondling with her hair,
‘The naughty noise! but God took care
Of all good girls.’ John seem’d to me
Too much for Jane’s theology,
Who bade him watch the tempest. Now
A blast made all the woodland bow;
Against the whirl of leaves and dust
Kine dropp’d their heads; the tortured gust
Jagg’d and convuls’d the ascending smoke
To mockery of the lightning’s stroke.
The blood prick’d, and a blinding flash
And close coinstantaneous crash
Humbled the soul, and the rain all round
Resilient dimm’d the whistling ground,
Nor flagg’d in force from first to last,
Till, sudden as it came, ’twas past,
Leaving a trouble in the copse
Of brawling birds and tinkling drops.
Change beyond hope! Far thunder faint
Mutter’d its vast and vain complaint,
And gaps and fractures, fringed with light,
Show’d the sweet skies, with squadrons bright
Of cloudlets, glittering calm and fair
Through gulfs of calm and glittering air.
With this adventure, we return’d.
The roads the feet no longer burn’d.
A wholesome smell of rainy earth
Refresh’d our spirits, tired of mirth.
The donkey-boy drew friendly near
My Wife, and, touch’d by the kind cheer
Her countenance show’d, or sooth’d perchance
By the soft evening’s sad advance,
As we were, stroked the flanks and head
Of the ass, and, somewhat thick-voiced, said,
‘To ’ave to wop the donkeys so
’Ardens the ’art, but they won’t go
Without!’ My wife, by this impress’d,
As men judge poets by their best,
When now we reach’d the welcome door,
Gave him his hire, and sixpence more.
XIX. FROM JANE
Dear Mrs. Graham, the fever’s past,
And Fred is well. I, in my last,
Forgot to say that, while ’twas on,
A lady, call’d Honoria Vaughan,
One of his Salisbury Cousins, came.
Had I, she ask’d me, heard her name?
’Twas that Honoria, no doubt,
Whom he would sometimes talk about
And speak to, when his nights were bad,
And so I told her that I had.
She look’d so beautiful and kind!
And just the sort of wife my mind
Pictured for Fred, with many tears,
In those sad early married years.
Visiting, yesterday, she said,
The Admiral’s Wife, she learn’d that Fred
Was very ill; she begg’d to be,
If possible, of use to me.
What could she do? Last year, his Aunt
Died, leaving her, who had no want,
Her fortune. Half was his, she thought;
But he, she knew, would not be brought
To take his rights at second hand.
Yet something might, she hoped, be plann’d.
What did I think of putting John
To school and college? Mr. Vaughan,
When John was old enough, could give
Preferment to her relative;
And she should be so pleased.—I said
I felt quite sure that dearest Fred
Would be most thankful. Would we come,
And make ourselves, she ask’d, at home,
Next month, at High-Hurst? Change of air
Both he and I should need, and there
At leisure we could talk, and then
Fix plans, as John was nearly ten.
It seemed so rude to think and doubt,
So I said, Yes. In going out,
She said, ‘How strange of Frederick, Dear,’
(I wish he had been there to hear,)
‘To send no cards, or tell me what
A nice new Cousin I had got!’
Was not that kind?
When Fred grew strong,
I had, I found, done very wrong.
Anger was in his voice and eye.
With people born and bred so high
As Fred and Mrs. Vaughan and you,
It’s hard to guess what’s right to do;
And he won’t teach me!
Dear Fred wrote,
Directly, such a lovely note,
Which, though it undid all I had done,
Was, both to me and Mrs. Vaughan,
So kind! His words. I can’t say why,
Like soldiers’ music, made me cry.