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You don’t have to warn any guy to avoid pressing them balls hard. God knows that balls are needed for reproductions and that there are important replication documents in them. So he made them to feel very painful when disturbed, so that, whoever offends them will be sorry. God is smart guys. Instead of him saying don’t press your balls hard every time, he knows that human-beings won’t listen and will keep on doing that anyway. So he just makes them very painful so that those who disobey will be sorry.

(d)Physical differences at a glance (vagina)

Guys, below is a portrait of the vagina. Ladies, don’t take this lightly. Take notice of the vaginal masterpiece and the labeling. Some women have actually failed to label this properly at elementary school. We have got the clitoris down there, There is also the labia monora, and majora.That should probably mean minor and major. Never mind the scientific jargon. I think this is what they call ‘‘ditlopi’’,in my country. There is the vestitube and the vagina, probably the most famous here. Then there is the urethra. The vagina is just a canal with flesh that is similar in structure to the texture of the walls of the mouth, and that should be why some people fancy blow-jobs. My wife is a nurse and she did anatomy in bit of detail. She says that lining inside the mouth and the vagina is called ‘‘micosa.’’ Some people pull the lips of the vagina to make them longer claiming it produces more pleasure for men, some cut out the clitoris. Because of such actions we have got women today, especially in Africa and India, who can’t even reach climax because their parts were mutilated. In Kenya sex workers are reported to be not able to enjoy sex because of mutilation during childhood. This mutilation of Kenyan women I hear is giving Ugandan sex workers leverage in sex market coz men prefer them. But the whole mutilation thing is pretty much based on traditional practices featuring a bit of ignorance. God wasn’t kidding when he made these things the way they are. So when some grandmother, who doesn’t know how to spell biology, starts instructing you to do things that your government hasn’t put on the school syllabus, be careful. You might live to regret it all your life. During Timothy’s time I guess there were women who taught sexual myths and health tips around exercising ... I have no idea what they taught, but Paul said to timothy, ‘‘reject profane and old wives’ fables, and exercise yourself toward godliness’’,(1 Timothy 4:7).You see, old wives have the tendency of teaching things more in the way they see them than the way they are. Her husband liked longer vaginal lips, now she pulling the lips of her children’s vagina in a bid to make the pussy pleasurable. Who says long is pleasurable? How does she know whether that child’s prospective partner will like that? Maybe he will want moderate lips so he can see the rest of the vagina. They are basing their practices on previous fantasies and fables, which they think are applicable to everyone —uniformed practices that can harm nature. So Paul says to Timothy, ‘‘ reject profane and old wives’ fables, and exercise yourself toward godliness’’, (1 Timothy 4:7). Be careful what you pick from these old wives! Why don’t we leave things just the way God made them? What’s all this pulling around of vaginal lips? There is something wrong with this idea of fiddling with nature, trying to make breasts bigger and penises longer. Some girls put stuff into the vagina hoping it will make the vagina juicier or tighter. They put dangerous stuff in there. In my website am availing a scientific spray for vagina tightening. Not these home made concoctions. Why should women try to tighten their vaginas using strange powders and medicines that are not even medical? Don’t we have gynecologists? Check my website at www.ansonpublishing.com and then go to sex shop. You should find a vagina tightener made by professionals!

(e) A closer look at Physical differences (Penis)

The reason why you need to take a closer look at the penis is that it takes more than basic knowledge to make your guy and yourself reach climax. How do you use a spoon when you don’t know it well in terms of structure and utility? Is there a utensil that you can ever use properly without knowing its anatomy and function?:—I guess not. Brothers and sisters pay careful attention to the organ picture below. There is that tip of the penis, which is very sensitive, I think is called the ‘‘corona’’ Sounds like ‘‘corolla’’, right? Yeah, that’s where the joyride comes from. Then there is that sponge like tissue, which is labeled penis. Blood flows into those tissues and they become erect. So ladies, you need to do a little bit of work to turn on your big kahuna. But don’t worry, that rubber like thing will be firm in no time if your bull is a true one. If he’s got erection problems...that’s a different story altogether. We will talk about it sometime later. Now, take a look at the scrotum and epididymis . There is that vas deferens ‘‘tube like ’’ thing. I think sperms travel in that tube. Look at the distance, now that’s some ‘‘kilometers’’ right there... So when this guy says ‘‘I am coming’’, you know exactly where he is coming from. He’s got seedlings from the nursery and he is going all the way to the main garden to plant them. By the time he’s by the penis tip with those seeds he will be screaming names and telling you all kinds of things. But take another look, there’ are those seminal vesicles. That’s where the semen comes from right? Then, what takes him so long to come when the nursery is so near? Oh, messages have to be sent to the brain that the sex is brilliant, then the brain will instruct the release of semen, right?

But when the delivery man is too slow to receive and deliver the messages, eish, it takes long to come, and that’s where the woman gets tired of waiting for his arrival. Guys don’t take too long. It makes the whole thing boring. It makes sex to be a project instead of an escapade. Yes there’s the bladder and if he starts sexing with the bladder full of urine he is going to have a problem coming early. Anyway that’s for later. Okay take a look at the tip of the penis. Look at how it’s shaped. Why is it shaped that way? Okay it’s not yet time for this coz it’s for later but let me give you a clue:The penis has a shape, which makes it easy to touch the top part of the vagina. It’s designed such that as the man goes in and out he touches a spot which provokes the female climax. Most men don’t know this, and they come and make their spouses to come by happenstance. There’s nothing more unfortunate in the bedroom than people who just come by coincidence. Later on I am going to show you how to come and how to make your partner come, but wait, I have to teach you the first step. That’s going to be one step at a time,“Precept upon precept, precept upon precept, Line upon line, line upon line, Here a little, there a little,” (Isaiah 28:13).These things are not to be rushed.

(f)A closer look at Physical differences (Vagina)

A closer look at the vagina also reveals something interesting. You better pay serious attention coz you won’t learn this in church. In fact, should they hear you, they would cast the demon out of you for saying ‘‘vagina.’’ You would have to say something like ‘‘womanhood’’ and say it discreetly so that you are not heard by holy people. And the irony of it is that often the very people who don’t want to hear the word vagina are the ones sexing people behind the scenes and committing all kinds of sordid acts. Yah, you didn’t know it?:—think again.

Anyway, lets go on. You got the vagina picture down there, I don’t want to say the reproductive system. Let just say ‘‘vagina’’ or ‘‘pussy’’ if that’s fine with you or whatever.... But know that God will never judge you for labeling an organ the way you want. So, I have just drawn and labeled the vagina and its neighbors on the previous page. Next time you want to do a book, and need illustrations, just try me out. Am not that bad...or am I?I help people publish books for almost nothing. If you’re interested Visit www.ansonpublishing.com go to services, fill the-form below and we’ll take it from there. I want you to focus on the clitoris and the pipe like entry, which is actually the vagina. Do you see where the penis goes in? At the end of that tunnel, there is that cervix part. If a guy has a dick long enough to touch that cervix part it is going to hurt. And the pain is unbearable. So while you go about trying to increase penile size just remember, that’s a no-go-area. And by the way, if the penis is longer than needed there’s no way of reducing it. I never heard of penis reducing medicine. Increasing the penis is like walking through a rail-way tunnel. If the train doesn’t come while you are in that tunnel, then you are simply fortunate. If it does, you are finished. If you increase the penis to a ‘‘right’’ length then we can say ‘‘well done kid.’’ But if it’s the wrong size, you will have to live with consequences of trying to teach God how to make the right penis length. So it’s a ‘‘do it at your own risk’’, coz whatever bad thing happens, you have yourself to blame. Not even the devil will be held responsible for you doing your thing and having your errors.

At the entrance is the vestibular gland. That’s for lubricating the vagina. It’s at the door. I mean the greater vastibular gland. Take a look at it. It lubricates the entrance. So when you put it in and its painful, don’t think it shows that you are the man. You are just hurting Eve, big time. You are breaking them traffic laws. That’s a stop sign brother, you are suppose to fondle until the gland releases the fluid and then once the fluid is there and the lips of the vagina have been puffed up, you enter.

We are almost at the end of the chapter, but let me tell you something that I might not have the writing space to say when we go ahead. Men love to be respected and sexed and women love relationships. Men are projectors and women are receptors. Men look at things in general and in summery, women love attention to detail. Yes, women and man are not same. But vaginas and penises are reciprocal. Every man’s penis has to have testicles and a shaft and every woman’s vagina ought to have the vestibular glands and labia majora or manora.There is nothing like this lady’s sex is nicer than that one. It is you the man, who imagines that woman is nicer than that one. And it feels like that because the mind is conditioned that way. This reminds me of Pavlov, Ivan (Petrovich) (1849–1936), a Russian physiologist. He is best known for his studies on the conditioned reflex. He demonstrated through a dog that salivates at the ring of a bell the concept of mental conditioning. God never gave some people nicer vaginas than others. That would simply be unfair. Yes,there are bigger vaginas, smaller vaginas, but ‘‘nicer’’ is rather subjective to mental perception and conditioning. There are men who just don’t know how to have satisfying sex and then they conclude that it’s because of the other person. They pass on the blame. Perhaps this other person mourns in way that they like and they think eish, this one’s sex is juicier. There is nothing like that. Not when it comes to sex, and as a man if you are good at doing it, with your partner, it should be nice, no matter who your partner is. You might say you prefer fat women, but remember that fat is just fat. If you are dating a fat woman she might just lose weight and become thin. Are you going to leave her and look for someone fat? If you like thin girls and your slim girl gains weight, are you going to be up and about looking for a slim girl?

Don’t be in love with weight. Weight is just weight. And I am not saying that you should not pick a girl with big bums and curves if that’s what you like, but I am saying don’t let your love for someone be just based on the size of a bum. She might get stress and lose that bum. Then there are race issues. Some women, especially in Africa and China believe in getting married to white men. Some white women in Europe believe that men in Africa sex better.Word has it that some guys in Africa believe that if you ever sex an Indian, American or French woman you will forget the day you were born. Those things are just mental perceptions. And such have promoted sex tourism. There is nothing like that. How is a man or a woman going to go around test-driving women of all the races to verify myths that were born out of pure ignorance? It is just a mindset. If you believe girls in Russia are the best, its going to be that way to you. And yes if you believe Russian girls are the best then get yourself a Russian girl and settle.

You should get what you want, settle and enjoy it. There is no way you are going to eat everything in the restaurant’s menu and not have problems. Even rich guys choose what they want to eat. I have met and known racists who believed that falling in love with black chicks is degrading because they lowly rate them as unclean ‘‘kaffirs.’’ Generalization is hardly true. But that aside, mentality is king. ‘‘I know and am convinced by the Lord Jesus that there is nothing unclean of itself; but to him who considers anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean’’,(Romans 14:14). I just love that verse coz it shows us that it’s all about our minds.

Now, let me talk to ladies who pick a guy simply because he’s got money. While most men hate the thought of that, there is nothing wrong with a lady choosing someone because he’s got this or that. Ladies love to be provided for and will always love a guy who seems to have it all figured out—especially when it comes to money. It’s natural, I mean, who would want to marry a fool who can’t provide? But let me warn you ladies not to be imprudent in your search for a provider. Be careful not to miss out on a guy with potential simply because there’s a rich dude driving a Cadillac in front of you. You can’t afford to be that cheap. If love is what you want, don’t just open your thighs because a guy has got money. Remember, ‘‘ the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows’’,(1 Timothy 6:10).And if you are a Christian, and you turn in self-defeating style and make money your God, don’t forget that ‘‘ Their sorrows shall be multiplied who hasten after another god’’,(Psalms 15:4).

Then there are guys who think ladies love mating like a breeding bull, and go up and about just learning how to sex better. These kinds of guys have got the wrong mentality. Women love sex, but they love to be loved and cared for more than just being sexed. It’s scientifically proven that men and women both love sex but men give it first priority. A woman may love sex, but that’s not her number 1 priority. Most women have left guys who could have sex like monsters, they had big chests, and 6 pacs and they left them for teddy bears that proved to be able to love them and care for them. Same for men, some have left women who knew how to do laundry, iron the clothes and cook like Colonel Saunders. Men want sex and it’s their number 1 priority. That’s why he keeps calling you to be with him when you are caught up in house chores. Do you want to love him the way he wants to be loved or the way you think you should love him? If you keep on doing that, you will understand the hard way why some men have left wives of virtue for bitches. Bitches gave them sex and that’s what they wanted, and if you don’t like the sound of that, then suit yourself. Same to you men, if you are up and about jobless and investing in knowing how to sex, buying books on karma sutra and tantric sex to pleasure her, there is a high chance you will not be able to keep a woman. You see, women want a guy that can afford to provide for them and love, protect, cherish, care and of course sex them. But sex to them is just one of them sex things. A woman can stay many weeks, months or years without sex and still feel fine, but she suffers badly if she has to stay a week without love, more specifically affection. To buy a lady something at Wal-Mart calls for money, not a long penis or better sex. The teller in any shop will never measure the length of one’s penis to give them goods in exchange for penile length or a mind bursting sex life. Yes it’s good to have great sex or even a great hood. I love sex, and I am not going to deny that and pretend just because I am a preacher. But don’t be too obsessed with sex and think women are. That’s so wrong dude. If you are a guy, take a look at those diagrams again. I want you to know that all women have a reproductive system like that one on the diagram. Don’t go chasing butterflies, just get one lady and spoil yourself. If you are a lady, you heard me... every man has a penis but what matters profoundly is which one of them loves you dearly. If you are careless about sex simply because your seductive power drives you nuts, Madam it won’t be long till guys treat you like a used chewing gum. Think about that and till then, take care...

2 The sex quadrant

What is so important about sex that makes a preacher like me to write a book about it? Oh okay, let me answer that. Now, who is first? I will start with women. Ladies first, right? Sex helps women relief stress especially after a boring day at work. Sex can humiliate a headache and refresh a fatigued woman—it’s a refreshment of some sort. Women who sex their husbands have a better chance of patronizing them hence winning their favor because men love sex and will treat tenderly women who care enough about them to treat them to cookie pleasure. In India, sex is respected for procreation. It helps women bond with their men at a level that nothing else can come to. It helps to put female lovers on the spotlight such that they feel attractive and confident. Women who ignore sex long enough can suffer vaginal atrophy—simply defined as a ‘‘waste away, typically due to the degeneration of cells.’’ Ladies, don’t waste this thing. Once you lose control over sex you’re losing control over your man. Sex to a man is like candy to a kid or milk to a cat, it keeps his mood jovial. Men who enjoy sex are happier than men who don’t. Men with poor sex lives can often be moody and grumpy and easily irritable. Lack of desire for sex on the part of women causes depression in men, and the bulk of them, nag, lust, visit prostitutes and do side-chicks. After all, not all men are Christians and not all Christians are strong enough to stand sexual denial. And he is not going to tell you he did a call girl or one night stand. You will be there playing forbidden and he will just watch you and bother you less. It’s like a kid,when a kid is too quite,there is something happening during that span of silence. If you check you will find the kid muddy,playing with soap mixed with oil and doing all sorts of destructive things. When your man becomes quiet and doesn’t bother you no more, get bothered! He’s probably taken his bother to the next camp. A lot of men simply don’t understand how loved they are unless it’s communicated through sex. It’s a language men speak. Besides, sex is a calorie burner that is way better than the treadmill coz you can burn close to 200 calories in a one hour sex session .It hydrates skin,improves it and strengthens nails thus helping your gal to have durable manicures. It’s cardio exercising, activates thigh muscles and improves your hair by making it shine. A study done in Queen’s University shows that sex somehow extends the lifespan of its beneficiaries. It improves the sense of smell through the production of prolactin. It reduces your chances of heart diseases. It alleviates pain through oxytocin and somehow prevents the pain of arthritis, and migraine aches. Yes, you have been saying it jokingly, but you are right, sex does discourage flu and colds by increasing levels of an antibody called immunoglobin. Sex deters prostate cancer from boasting about conquering you and balances your hormones. Dentists agree that sperms have in them a reasonable amount of zinc, calcium and other dental elements that help produce healthy teeth as your body absorbs his sperms. I am just saying ladies. Not that I am trying to get you to swallow his sperms.No.Haaaahaaa.I am just saying.Sex is good medicine. That’s a whole pharmacy between one’s legs. I wish all women and men knew this.Next time you struggle to get some sleep,don’t take expensive tranquilizers,save money, have sex and you will sleep like a baby. Good sex a week, keeps the doctor away. I really get tired of praying for people whose solution is just a shag away. I want to pray for real issues and concerns.

Since sex is so important, I am going to say the same thing in few ways before I start teaching you the sex quadrant. I have always hated formal school for being so formal and rigid that some clever people had to be dropouts to succeed at life. Our world is led by dropouts who could not wait another moment to quit school and start living. Brad Pitt dropped out of the University of Missouri instead of waiting two more weeks for graduation. Oprah dropped out of Tennessee State University. Talk about Jim Carrey and Lady Gaga. Those are dropouts. Tom Hanks, Abraham Lincoln, Walt Disney, John Lennon and John Mackey are some the world’s famous dropouts. They are just like Tupac Shakor, Lil Wayne, Eminem and them. Funny enough, our schoolbooks are loaded with lessons from people who rejected or were rejected by the educational system. We study windows, apple OS manuals and stuff. But that stuff comes from drop puts. Ironic isn’t it?

Formal school can teach you about the force of gravity but not sex, and how to do it graciously unless you are studying sex therapy . They can teach you how to write a formal letter of employment or curriculum vitae but how many schools teach one how to write a company profile? We are learning how to deal with organizational rivalry but our own enemies are messing us up. Then there’s this guy who holds a bachelor’s degree in Business Admin, and the same guy runs someone’s company better than his own life. Why is it like that? I think we hardly think we can apply the things we learn at school on ourselves because we were taught to think within the perimeters of employment. But today, that should end. I will teach you sex stuff using the very things you learned at school. In the bedroom, if ever you need to turn your lover on, you are simply trying to create a demand so that you can supply. That’s basic economics and the very thing you learned about supply and demand. Your lover is an asset, and you have the liability to put this asset to full use but there are going to be some operating expenses. That’s accounts. You see, a person is like a system and there is no way any system will run without ignition and preparing for that system to operate, especially when it comes to sex. That’s engineering. But in business school we learned something that might change your bedroom life forever.

Around 1953,Neil Borden, of the American Marketing association brought about new knowledge for marketers by introducing the 4p’s of marketing (Product, Price, Place and promotion). In 1990’s Lauterborn converted the 4ps to four Cs (consumer, cost, communication, convenience) citing the need to be more customer orientated. But to me the difference between these four P’s and C’s was nothing more than playing around with acronyms because the meaning is quiet similar. Product is comparable to commodity, Price is basically cost and promotion and communication go together while place is a matter of convenience. If you are not into marketing, not only are you bored by me saying this, you also don’t understand it. But please hang on, for just a bit.

If you’ve ever learned marketing you might have come across something called the market mix. I call it the ‘‘marketing quadrant’’ because it’s made up of 4 things that constitute intelligent marketing. Quad means four. Just hang on. You will learn things that you never thought you needed to rock your bedroom life. Simply put, Marketing is exposing what you have for the consumer to enjoy. Marketing looks at this in four aspects, which I love to call the marketing quadrant, but is quite often referred to as the ‘‘market mix.’’ Basically, the marketing quadrant is a combination of four factors that can be controlled by a company to influence consumers to purchase its products and these are namely: product, place, promotion and price. What kind of product in terms of shape, size, color, texture and other features determines your market’s response? Which place are you selling it and what are the means of promoting it? What about pricing? These four components determine the difference between epic performance and grey mediocrity in marketing. And that sounds very academic, right? Well its very sexy as well. Wait until I unfold it.

Just how does a marketing quadrant turn into a sex quadrant? Simple, in the bedroom, you are a product ready to be enjoyed by your spouse and vice-versa. Is the place right and prepared for sex? What are the means you have employed to promote sexuality for that moment? Are you ready to pay the price its going to cost to give your lover epic sex performance? So there goes the 4ps, namely product, place, promotion and price. But as I dig into these four, you might soon notice why the sex graph in your home went from hero to zero. Let’s go...

(a)Product

You are a product, even if your spouse is not paying a dollar for a round. It matters in contemporary marketing as to how the product looks. If you are selling phones, their sizes, operational mechanisms, softwares and overall feel is going to matter. Those attributes are going to determine how well your sales rock. Marketing starts with the aspect of product. That’s why companies are fighting in the market to produce better looking and functioning products. Look at yourself? Are you attractive to your spouse? Already some of you readers are getting Ideas. Perhaps you think we are going to talk about the need for you to have big breasts, big dicks and wide hips. Well, that might make a good product but I am not trying to give God correctional lessons on how He could have made you. You see, how your lover is shaped is your choice and hers. Nobody ever decided to be tall or short, but we do decide whether to date a tall or short person. I don’t think I want to address things, which you can do nothing about such as looking as ugly as a frog. But there are things that I will be glad to mention. One of them is weight. Many of us were able to lift their brides on that blessed wedding day, but today, it has to be a testimony that you can lift your own wife. Over the years, she had kids, moved from honey to mommy and is now heavier than two bags of cement put together. Women, if you think the vows your husband made bars him from being attracted to women who are half your size you are damn wrong, and it’s a good thing this book is not going to spare your feelings. When you are extremely fat, chances are you will be unattractive. Yes, African men, love fat women but not when that fatness makes it difficult to have sexual fun.

A man will prefer a woman whose body size can accommodate various sexual movements. Besides, fat people suffer breathing difficulties and tiredness. Just how are such things sexy? Woman, do something about your weight, or else most sex positions are just not going to work for him because of your shape. You can do better than saying ‘‘God made me that way.’’ But you should know that your man is not going to pressurize you . He will say you are fine the way you are but half the time such confessions are lies coming through his teeth. Ain’t no man, that get’s permanently happy with elephant sizes and that’s a fact. Especially if he didn’t marry you when you were that size. You will not always be petite into your old age, but you can agree with me that certain kilos you gained over the years are not to be condoned and unless you are willing to tempt your man into considering plan B, which we all know is a ‘‘small house’’... Fat can fur up the arteries, reducing blood flow to the clitoris and lessening sensitivity. Fat women most likely feel unattractive and will rush to hide between the sheets to dodge standing positions under bright light.

And for men, who care about the product, don’t forget that the duty to stay attractive is not for women only. Many of us men eat the way we want and we develop chubby bodies with pot belies almost covering our genitals. This type of thing affects our women but they don’t want to wound our egos. Worst of all, men love to be on top of women during sex. Which woman enjoys a weight of 120-140 kgs on top of her belly for at least one-hour everyday? You are simply heavy and by the way being that fat also shortens the penis. Ask any frank woman what she likes and she is not going to tell you she’s happy with a pot belly on her man. Start exercising like me and lose weight. I had to lose 25 kgs of weight early in the year 2015.We have to wonder why God made Adam with a good body which probably had a six-pac. He must have found it necessary for the woman. Your woman longs for that Adamic architecture, and even if you are not able to look like Jean-Claude Van Damme in blood sport, at least have a considerable chest for her to rest on. Women like that. Growing some lawn on it would be an added advantage to some. Which lady doesn’t like strong arms, abs, strong legs, lutes, and chest? Even Christian women like that. Just avoid the love-me-as-I-am syndrome. You are not to be like that, you have just allowed yourself to wear a fat body suit over the years. Nobody was born having weight that rivals a rhino. Exercising is like archaeology, it will dig out the real you from that bolt of fat and you will be glad to see how creative God has been about your body. Unveil that masterpiece.