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Subconscious Models
It is absence of demand that could become a serious obstacle on the way of any talent's realization. An individual might be as much talented as desired being aware of his calling and pursuing it. If however, his fruits of labor are not in demand, he will not achieve any satisfaction. A destiny of any unappreciated genius is unenviable, and therefore any desire to continue on the course will be gone soon. As a rule, an individual explains it like unsuccessful life circumstances, for instance, non-availability of financial possibilities, relations, assistance or any community being able to deservedly appreciate his work. Sometimes all these things are available, however it seems to an individual that a sphere in which his heart might be in, does not appear to be essential, necessary and up-to-date, and he would not find any application for his talents.
In reality all these circumstances turn to be just consequences of subconscious preferences of the individual himself. It is possible to correct them having realized one's own internal perceptions hampering the talent's growth. Then there will be removed a barrier, and life circumstances will start lining up consequently.
In each specific case these preferences are peculiar ones. However there also exist general subconscious models being typical for the majority of us, and being conditional upon single heritage of our country (Russia):
• You cannot be a successful earner because you may be punished for that.
• You should earn money by sweat of your brow. Let everyone see how you split your sides. Otherwise they could say that you have stolen the money.
• You should not show up. It is better to follow the crowd.
• We do not need many things. We have enough money for bare necessities, and God be thanked!
• Such things as hobbies, devotion and creativity are unserious ones-hereby you will not earn any money.
You have to conceive that all these preferences will not disappear on their own only because we do not agree to them. Possessing such models in one's subconscious mind, any individual one way or another would implement them in his life, not wishing that himself. The reason for this is fear that accompanies all these preferences and that inhabiting in an individual's soul attracts the things you are afraid of.
If however, an individual after having reconsidered subconscious preferences, having dismissed a sense of fear and having undertaken certain steps in his real life, a result would not delay to manifest itself. Very soon he would make sure that his talent is in demand. “All of a sudden” there would come a required telephone call, there would follow a collaboration invitation, there would be found a customer, a business partner or an investor and there would be offered remuneration.
A heady feeling of good luck, a personal state of being in demand and recognition would start up a mechanism on the known way. Any success would put a light to the talent with renewed vigor and would give the start to a new round.
Further on, it is required to back up a state of success rate, to develop one's mastership, without resting on one's oars and simultaneously to carry over a feeling of embodiment onto the other aspects of life.
Talent Is Love
Taking care of a heart-to-heart business, succeeding in it and being engaged in it with pleasure and with ease, and taking delight in obtained results means to remain “in a stream”, or in the energy of love. While unlocking his talents, every individual opens himself a door to encouragement, inspiration and love. So, it turns out that any talent is a key to love.
Having acquired the knack of doing something, and being located in a stream of inspiration and love, soon you will master to accomplish other things as well, even in those spheres where initially there were not observed any such capabilities of yours. That is exactly why they say: a gifted individual is talented in all things. And that is the case. When an individual develops a state of love in him, there also grows an amount of his talents, because “being talented” means “with love”, too.
In this place we would like to quote flash facts from our practice. Offering consultations to the people on the issues of personal potential realization, we found out that as soon as an individual starts working with topics of his talents, there take place drastic changes for the better in the sphere of interpersonal relationships. Such an inherent effect of being engaged in one's own business can be explained in a simple way: while discovering his own talents, any individual develops a state of love in him, and in such a manner he harmonizes all the spheres associated with love.
A talent is ready to open up for any individual at any moment, no matter where he is situated and what business he is engaged in. Instead of regretting the missed opportunities, just start actions in a new way right now.
Take a look at your contemporary life and try to identify what things you are now engaged in would be consonant with your inspirations, would bring you real satisfaction and would give joy of creativity. Such deeds are present in the life of every individual. You only have to distinguish them. On this way along, following recommendations will be of assistance to you.
Steps
Pondering on the talents, do not think about your occupation, your career and your job right away. Start with minor things. A heart-to-heart business could appear to be your capability to organize an evening party, to lay the table prettily or to drive a car passionately, your capability to listen to an individual and to render him support in the hour of need or your skills to dress yourself in an individual way.
No matter what sphere of business you are engaged in, just think of your heart-to-heart actions: whether you like to conduct negotiations, to address the meetings of people, to organize work of others, to draw up reports, to handle figures or to prepare texts.
Time and again the people are afraid of the fact that with the aim of developing talents they would have to drop everything and would turn over a new leaf from the ground up. In the course of time your life will be really changed utterly and completely. However, such abrupt moves will not be required from you at the very beginning. Your talent lies in the things you are engaged in nowadays. Just develop the knack of talented actions you could take even now, and it will become your first step on your way along.
There is a widely spread opinion as if the only task should be to come across one's own talent, and further on everything would go on by itself. This is not like this. Any talent requires its development, its perfection and its extension onto the other spheres of activity.
Without realizing this fact, dozens of talented and successful individuals in the past will not be able to settle their destiny. The gifted actors who used to collect packed audience once upon a time, and the talented sportsmen who used to amaze with their achievements are just some examples of how individuals stopped and seized to develop themselves further on. And on the other hand, the individuals having managed to expand their state of embodiment onto the other aspects of life feel like successful ones up to the present time.
A talented businessman having experienced good luck of turning his idea into reality one day would do it more than once again, however at a different level or in an entirely another sphere of activity. His faith in success gives light to people; it attracts resources and promotes achievement of new results. A principle of successful putting an idea into practice will come into action again.
For example, the same relates to a talented sportsman. The most valuable thing being acquired by a sportsman is not his technical execution, but а state of flight, invulnerability as well as incredible happiness of general recognition.
This is a triumph of victory for the sake of which such a long and difficult way is made. And if an individual would manage to transfer this feeling onto the other business, even not associated with sports, he will be successful in it as well.
Instead of this, many sportsmen experiencing colossal fear prior to life without sports would attempt to stay in it as long as possible, not wishing to put up with the fact that physical capabilities of each individual have got their limits.
Thus, it is impossible to exercise one's talent one day and to stay a successful individual all the time. Development of talents is an unlimited process, however due to that not less fascinating one. To find one's own talent means to come across happiness. And it is never too late to do that.
Proper Name: Do You Like Your Name?
Have you ever thought over what influence a familiar word being pronounced many times exercise upon you – your name? Among the entire manifold of words an individual's name remains for him one of the most significant words throughout all his life. This word is used to be heard to the address of an individual more often than others; he does associates his image with this word, and with this word he presents himself to the surrounding world. The name represents an individual himself.
Name as Security
Many dogmas provide the thought that some formula of the fate lies in a name and it's possible to get a power over the person discovering his real name. It's proposed to have several names to avoid this. They should defend person as an armor form attacks and don't allow anybody to penetrate.
Actually, name is a key that opens one of the doors on a way to the person. It's possible to approach energy field of the person with a name and impact on him somehow. Name is a reliable protection for a person if he likes it.
If a person feels comfortable with his name, if it sounds pleasant for him and he carries his name gladly, positive senses form inside him regarding his name, whatever it means and however surrounding people perceive it. Every time he hears his name, sees it in writing, writes himself or pronounces – his attitude to the name and his senses become involved as well.
Considering that a name is anyway permanently used by a person from day to day, the senses layer constantly. The more acceptance, respect, worth and gladness are among them, the more positive senses acquire a name and the more strong it becomes.
We all live among people and understand that our names are used differently. Pronouncing it, people may bless or judge us, pray for us or berate us. When a number of people who know us increase, the burden of a name rises as well, because it is used more often. People, who are on the close attention of huge amount of strangers, often use a pseudonym or leave an official representative name for society and in everyday life name themselves differently – that is one of the manners to save yourself from the outside influence.
A name may lose its force, if other people often berate, criticize, shame or connect it with certain negative quality. If a person correlates himself only with this name and perceives criticism at his own charge, not only the name suffers but a personality. It is necessary to understand that a name is not a person himself. Protective function of a name lies in its ability to face an attack and save a person from troubles.
The biggest damage for a name may bring a person himself.
If he doesn't like his own name, if it causes awkwardness, shame, disgust, timidity, annoyance or sadness, he fills with these senses his image and presentation about himself. It should be mentioned that others act up accordingly.
Counterpoint of a Name
The more names a person have the better. If the name has many derivatives and they all are used, it creates a volume counterpoint image of a name, according to which a person temporize, using one or another variant in relation to the situation. The man called Peter may express himself as Peter Ilyich, Petia, Petenka, Petushok, Pit, Piter, Petka, Petruchcho or Petrukha. The diversity of name make an opportunity to express yourself differently, play different roles and form different attitude to you. In this case the image of a name is quite stable, because it implies the existence of different qualities in the person.
A different matter is when, for example, a woman presents herself as Lyudmila Prokofyevna everywhere. Such strict and decisive image makes her express herself equally in any society and in any circumstances. Many business people – both men and women – don't come out from the image of a “big boss”, wherever they are.
If a person doesn't have anybody who may call him with tender and friendly names, he passes the necessity to express himself in such a manner.
Eventually a person may become stuck in the frame of the same image and lose a possibility to change.
Decisive and fixed image of a name won't let him deviate from the present sequence. If a name itself doesn't intend a lot of derivatives, different names, which a person is called in different circumstances, even if they are not connected with each other, help to make image more stable. A person creates a reliable image that will defend him in different conditions, having home name, amicable, representative, passport, christening and others. The main condition is to admire and use appropriate all these names.
Name and Woman's Senses
Senses, connected with a name, play a special role in a woman's life. When a woman falls in love, her sweetheart's name cares her ear and brings a wage of tenderness with every mention of it. Even if she considered this name neutrally before, it becomes more dear and honey after the time passes. The same continue until her feeling lasts towards this man. Loving his name, pronouncing it inside the soul with tenderness and warm, a woman surrounds the man with the same love, forms around him safe secure space and strengthens a connection between them.
Husband's surname is also important for woman's senses. Perfectly, she likes his surname, takes it with pleasure becoming married and gives it to her children gladly. If a surname of a man seems to a woman inappropriate, and she can't imagine herself using it, there is something inside the man she can't or don't want to accept.
Sometimes the reason of such non-acceptance lies in the point that man doesn't like his surname and feels with it uncomfortable.
If it's true, such a surname is weak and can't be used for continuation of this man's generation, indeed the woman reacts on this.
If a man likes his surname and uses it with honor, but nevertheless it is not to woman's liking, the reasons of her distasting should be looked for inside herself.
When a woman gives to her children her own surname, actually she insists on the belonging her children to her generation, her parents and herself. Women often act like that when want to underline superiority of their family in comparison of the man's generation, that is to say they that when a woman consider herself better than a man she bring up her children according to this idea. When relationships with a man go on wrong, a woman tries to erase her husband from children's lives rejecting his surname. In some situations such wish is explicable but mothers should remember about the impact of this on a child. For a boy rejecting his father will turn into the same behavior towards himself: in the adult life he will fatally face the situation when a woman doesn't take into consideration his opinion and act as she wish against his wants; he will have to make a lot of efforts to gain the weight and make his opinion important. Girls, who use their mother's surname, are awaited to repeat a destiny of women from this generation. Unhappy marriages, misfortune in personal life, loneliness, and ailment – all these conditions, anyway descendible, will act more quickly and bright, enforced with an efficient surname.
